COVID & SEX
Guidance during these COVID times asks us to stick to regular sexual partners, or to not have sex with others. Sexual abstinence isn’t possible or sustainable for everyone. These tips help you make an evaluation for what works best for you and your partners, and help reduce COVID risks.
COVID can be transmitted via close person-to-person contact during sex. But COVID isn’t in itself a sexually transmitted virus. There’s no evidence that shows COVID has been transmitted via pre-cum, cum, vaginal fluids, butt juice or rimming.
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Information about COVID and its transmission is developing as we learn more about the virus. Stay up-to-date with changing information, and stick to sources of information that are reliable and evidence based.
If you’re having phone or cam sex, or swapping pics, be aware of your personal safety. Your session might be recorded without your knowledge. Consider not showing your face, or camming from a neutral background.
Remember: consent issues are the same, regardless of COVID - it’s not OK (and is often illegal) to film or photograph someone without consent.
It sucks – who wants to miss out on a hot date? But skipping sex if you’re feeling sick, or know that you’ve been recently exposed to someone with COVID symptoms, will help stop COVID being passed on.
Just as with HIV and STI prevention choices, we’re all making decisions about COVID risk reduction strategies. If we’ve learnt anything from sexual health, it’s that stigma and judgement are counter-productive.
Use this time to talk openly and supportively about all the prevention options available. Uncertainty is scary but knowledge is power.
It doesn’t have to be the same person for the months ahead – you might agree to have different buddies on monthly rotation!
If you have a lock-down buddy then it’s important to be clear what your rules are. Be clear about expectations, and what you’ll do if one of you doesn’t stick to the agreements.
The more people you are in close contact with, the more likely it is you’ll be exposed to COVID. If you’re having sex, then reducing the numbers of hook ups you have will reduce your risks.
You could wear a face mask or covering (kinky!) or have sex where you face away from each other.
You could also have sex using glory holes (holes in doors or water-proof curtains), or sex that doesn’t involve physical touching – such as watching each other jacking off.
Or by taking your sex play into a well-ventilated place – on a roof-top, in the woods, or in a park.